women

Women don’t need to stop apologising- men need to start.

Check out my new piece on The Pool, about women and apologising, and why this constant critique of women apologising is sexist in itself.  I would love it if you would click, read, and share on Facebook or Twitter.  Thank you!

“……This critique of the apology is part of a wider phenomenon, in which things associated with girls or women, from the colour pink to domestic labour, are consistently assigned a lower cultural value than those associated with boys or men. Fashion, say, is vain and shallow, while football is basically an offshoot of existentialism. Girls are routinely encouraged to “be anything a boy can be”, whereas even committed feminists recoil at the idea of urging a boy to be more like a girl.

The current anti-apologising crusade is pretty typical of this subtly toxic gender hierarchy, and it’s bothersome, not just because it can easily slide into yet another way to blame women for wider structural issues of discrimination, such as unequal pay. Because, broadly speaking, apologising is something we should be encouraging, not condemning. Saying sorry is a mark of consideration for others feelings, of taking responsibility for our own actions. Perhaps women shouldn’t be apologising less – men should be apologising more…..”

Read the whole piece here

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It’s Not Just Bossy- Some Other Supposedly Gender Neutral Words That Are Only Ever Used To Describe Women

Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg and Beyonce want to ban the word ‘bossy‘, saying that it is used to undermine girls and women and discourage them from taking on leadership roles.  Instead we should use the word ‘leader.’  But bossy isn’t the only word used to subtly keep women down.  Here are some other examples of words which are almost exclusively used to describe women.

 

Bubbly

Feisty

Strident

Blonde

Brunette

Career orientated

Shrill

Sassy

Frumpy

Shapely

Vivacious

High Maintenance

Independent

Dippy

Ditzy

Scatty

Bitter

Domineering

Barren

Frigid

Manipulative

Gossip

Nag

Working…

Beautiful

Overbearing

Headstrong

Contrary

Judgemental

Battle-axe

Hormonal

Any more?