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Women don’t need to stop apologising- men need to start.

Check out my new piece on The Pool, about women and apologising, and why this constant critique of women apologising is sexist in itself.  I would love it if you would click, read, and share on Facebook or Twitter.  Thank you!

“……This critique of the apology is part of a wider phenomenon, in which things associated with girls or women, from the colour pink to domestic labour, are consistently assigned a lower cultural value than those associated with boys or men. Fashion, say, is vain and shallow, while football is basically an offshoot of existentialism. Girls are routinely encouraged to “be anything a boy can be”, whereas even committed feminists recoil at the idea of urging a boy to be more like a girl.

The current anti-apologising crusade is pretty typical of this subtly toxic gender hierarchy, and it’s bothersome, not just because it can easily slide into yet another way to blame women for wider structural issues of discrimination, such as unequal pay. Because, broadly speaking, apologising is something we should be encouraging, not condemning. Saying sorry is a mark of consideration for others feelings, of taking responsibility for our own actions. Perhaps women shouldn’t be apologising less – men should be apologising more…..”

Read the whole piece here

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The Pursuit of Happiness

My book, The Pursuit of Happiness, and Why It’s Making Us Anxious (Hutchinson, Penguin) is out this week in the UK! (US release in October.)

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